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Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Positive Attitudes � A 12 Step Program For HIV Affected Persons by Reggie Smith
Positive Attitudes – A 12 Step Program For HIV Affected Persons
I have personally benefited from using the principles of this 12-step program for those of us who acknowledge that we are affected by HIV. I say “those of us who have acknowledged” because most, if not all of us, have been affected by HIV. Not everyone has come to terms with it, or has identified just how they are affected. Let’s explore some of the scenarios with which YOU may be included in this demographic first, and then discuss whether this program may right for you.
The program has been called HIV Anonymous for over 10 years, but because the stigma of HIV would not allow many people to get past the idea of being associated with, seen around, or connected to anything with HIV in the name or title, the name of the program is now “Positive Attitudes”. Many people are affected because they have yet to deal with the trauma of lost loved one’s. That is especially true for those whose families have been stigmatized to the point of hiding the fact that those loved one’s were HIV+ prior to death.
Of course, if you are sexually active, you are eligible to become a host for HIV. The mere fact that sexually active people need to navigate the minefield of truth and reconciliation, with self and partners, is reason enough to be involved in a support group. What I have found is that our individualistic nature is something the HIV retrovirus is counting on in it’s quest to make YOU a host for HIV. The Positive Attitudes program is an answer to the question, “what is out there for the uninfected person?”. Where can we all go to discuss the spiritual, emotional and mental issues and behaviors that make us humans such fertile ground for manifesting HIV?
Positive Attitudes is a twelve- step support program adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous. It is a global network that offers unbiased support to people infected with, affected by, or at risk for HIV. There is a dire need to remove the stigma and face the fears and ignorance surrounding HIV & AIDS. This fellowship is helping to reduce the prejudice and discrimination against HIV-affected individuals. They are a fellowship of men and women who are committed to a way of life that will help fight the spread of HIV.
Positive Attitudes is a fellowship of persons who have found that living with a potentially terminal illness and/or affected by this illness is a major challenge. They are individuals who meet regularly as a group, assisting one another in this new way of life. They have no outside affiliations. Your past is kept in confidence within the group. They don’t thrive on your past, but concentrate on what we want for today and our future. For many, the realization of their present conditions left them feeling dejected and depressed. They could no longer live life to its fullest. They became disoriented, and their peace of mind was displaced by uncontrollable emotions.
The folks involved in Positive Attitudes support groups are not there to change you. They are not there to segregate or impose a particular belief system upon you. However, if you feel remorse that you have transmitted HIV to another person, or if you are concerned that your behavior could spread HIV, or maybe you just want to fellowship with other people who are living in balance and harmony with HIV and AIDS, then Positive Attitudes is for you.
There are thousands of sources telling you what to do—and what not to do. Some sources claim that HIV causes AIDS and others claim that it does not. The folks at Positive Attitudes avoid getting caught up in scientific contention. We have experienced much suffering. We have seen too many broken hearts and too many people die to take one side in an unresolved scientific debate. They also emphasize Prevention for Positives, which includes prevention challenges specific to people already infected with HIV, such as re-infection with resistant strains of HIV, co-infection with hepatitis, TB, and STD’s, denial of risk, health issues, and psychosocial issues. The choice to take medication for HIV or AIDS is a decision that each individual must make.
If you have seen yourself or a loved one in your minds eye wile reading this information, then your spirit is telling you that you read it for a reason. Do yourself a favor and start (or continue) listening to your spirit. Reach out to these folks to let them know they are on the right track as they are working to make this program available for you. They have a sister site for Hepatitis C with a bulletin board that is very active with treatment experienced people sharing their strength, hope and experience.
www.hivanonymous.com www.hcvanonymous.com Phone: 949-264-4170 HIVAspotw:vo
LIVING JUST A LITTLE, LAUGHING JUST A LITTLE (AIN�T EASY) by Reggie Smith
LIVING JUST A LITTLE, LAUGHING JUST A LITTLE (AIN’T EASY)
by Reggie Smith
I get tired of taking meds!! I know that is not the politically correct position to take, but if you have been taking meds for any period of time, as I have, you might just get tired of taking medications every day too!! Adherence means having to be disciplined enough to take medications EVERY day, in some cases two or three times a day. That is not an easy thing to do, even if it is the difference between good and bad health, or as we have been told and have sometimes experienced, the difference between life and death.
Why should I be any different than most humans I know? After all, adherence is the flip side of prevention, right? The fact that I am in this position of having to take these HIV meds is because I was not disciplined enough to wear a condom, so what makes me think that all of a sudden I am going to be disciplined enough to maintain this new lifestyle perfectly every day! Furthermore, I have been addicted to other things in my life, and I have worked very hard to break those addictions so that I could be the thing my heart yearns for…FREE! Now I find myself strung out on other drugs that I better not stop taking if I want to feel good and protect those whom I love.
Well, for those of us who are hosts to the HIV virus, we need to know that our situation is way beyond just how we feel. The virus is not a morale issue, nor is our well being contingent on what we think about how we got HIV. It is bigger than our often natural desire to be undisciplined and inconsistent. The fact is that experience is showing us that those who take these medications to suppress the HIV virus in our systems seem to benefit the most. I remember when there were no medications at all, and very little if any hope for those of us who fought valiantly to enjoy the best quality life we could. We had to do so without the option of the “lifesaving” medicines that we now find ourselves sometimes taking for granted. How else could we explain the evolution of attitudes about HIV, and how the attitudes about living with the virus has gone from hopelessness to recklessness?
People think that it is easy to just take the medications if they catch the virus, but like I always try to share with those who are still HIV negative, it’s easier to wear a condom than it is to get and take medications every day for the rest of your life. When I ask people about their addictions to things like cigarettes, sugar, fried chicken, soda, etc., most say that they do not have the discipline to stop using those substances, even with the knowledge that they may be harmful to their health. Many have said “I can’t think about living without my ____”!! So clearly the threat of bad health is not the ultimate motivation to live a disciplined life. What is it that will get folks to change their behaviors?
I have been sick and at deaths door. When you have had that kind of experience, or if you have lived as long as many of us who are long time survivors have, the motivation to adhere to our medicine regimens is rooted in gratititude. I try to remember what it was like being sick and how much more enjoyable my life is when I am feeling physically well. Life is so much more sweeter, and I am so much more of a productive human being when I am not consumed with how to overcome sickness. Besides, many of us longtime survivors are now grandparents, so the curiosity of how my grandchildren will look and be as they grow up is keeping me going too! I mean, my children are still a part of my motivation to be well, but my grandchildren are even more intriguing, and watching them grow will take more time, so if the meds will help me achieve that, I guess I will do my best to adhere to the regimen as prescribed. The best thing I can do along with that is to make sure that I drink enough water and do the other things that I can to try to keep my organs (i.e., liver, kidneys, heart, etc.) as healthy as I can!
So, even though I am tired of taking meds, and I want to be free of even the addiction to medications that are legal and beneficial; and even though I can use my humanity as an excuse to not take meds all the time because I am not perfect…I am way too grateful and nosy about what life has to offer to NOT take them. There are too many who have died as a result of either side of the arguments of the scientific debate. I chose to err on the side of caution for now. Actually that has been working out pretty well for me. After being sick in 2005, I have been taking the antiretroviral combination that has kept my virus at undetectable levels, and allowed me to enjoy really good health. With God’s grace, and enough desire to live well, I have been able to adhere pretty well to this regimen. My oldest granddaughter was 2 years old at the time. Now she is nine, and I have two other grand daughters, a grandson, and a set of boy/girl twins due in months! I play softball and golf, take flying lessons, I am of service to my community, and I am blessed to share my experience and hope with you. I think that the benefits to adhering to this regimen of medicines is bigger than what I might be feeling about being tired.
There are probably a lot of politically correct things that could be said to try to encourage people like you and me to adhere to taking our medications religiously, but for me it’s best that I remember that it is easier to try to stay healthy than it is to try to get well!! I have seen the fruits of being alive and well, and I will try to remain grateful for every day that I can have this wonderful life. If part of the price for being able to share life and love, while protecting my wife, who is HIV negative from any greater danger, than I need to be unselfish enough, and willing enough to give it my very best shot. There are plenty of things that we can do to try to understand ourselves and our addictions better. Twelve step programs like HIV Anonymous (www.hivanonymous.com) have been very helpful on both accord. So I suggest we do our best to make the right choice on a daily basis so that we can enjoy watching the adventure of life unfold!
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Here in "RISE", we are always seeking to share encouragement and information, as well as resources in the community where we might find support for our healing. We hope that you will be uplifted by the stories of these young women living with HIV, and are as encouraged as we are about the great potential of loves healing power!
